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can you help me. I am a big dumb idiot and no one likes me ;_;

Do you have any good music recommendations?

>find out ex girlfriend of two weeks went on a date with one of your friends/acquaintances
>he's actually some guy you introduced her to a couple months ago
>trying to forget about her and move on but can't
>know that she's happy with some other fucking guy and he gets to experience what I could have

I feel pretty horrible right now. I know I shouldn't care about what she does and it's out of my control, but it's hard not to feel hurt by this. I'm trying to distract myself with other stuff but I think about her all the time. Any advice/music recommendations?

>>46220154
I listen to a lot of stuff like Andrew Jackson Jihad, Snowing, 90's screamo, revival emo, stuff like that. I've also been listening to some Sunn 0))) and Converge lately

>>46220388
>Andrew Jackson Jihad, Snowing,
were best friends now
shut up
accept my friendship

>>46220444
so are you friends with half of the board?

>>46220297
I'm the kind of person that tends to obsessively think and replay situations over in my head, wondering if I could have done something differently. So what I try to do is not allow myself any time to do this. I keep myself as busy as humanly possible, friends, school, extra hours at work, that type of stuff. I also don't lie to myself; some people think telling themselves they're over someone makes it true, I don't really think it does. Take the time to honestly evaluate how you feel like once a week or so, you'll notice it hurts less and less each week until the point that it doesn't hurt anymore. Shit sucks, but I'm sure you can get through it.
Listen to Fuck your Emotional Bullshit by Snowing or Foxing or something, just feel shit out.

>>46220388
I'm sorry but anon asked for good music recommendations.

>>46220444
Always friends, never not friends. Hugs, good vibes 'n such. I could always use new homies. Beware: I Hug

>>46220560
classic comedy. I'm gonna go ahead and engage you genuinely regardless: what do you like to listen to? I just posted what I've been listening to lately but I listen to a lot of stuff, I'm sure we have something in common

>>46220497
i guess so, thats a good thing
>>46220583
:D

>>46220654

>>46220123
Troll?

I'm taking a music related class next semester, first one I'll be taking at uni for some reason. I want to make some music-minded friends for once. Is there any possible way I could fuck up?

>>46220838
Don't over-do it too early. There's this dude in a class of mine that's a freshman and he's trying to seem knowledgeable about the subject really hard and it just comes off as needy and a bit pretentious.
Don't try to be a know-it-all, just wear you interests on your sleeve and don't shit on other people's interests. be jovial and likable but not fake.
wear some band shirts of shit you love, that's the quickest way to meet like minded musicians

How the hell do i look through records at a record store without knocking them all over? Shit is impossible.

I'm beginning my freshman year at UC Santa Cruz this fall and have two questions:

1. How do I meet people who are really interested in music without taking a music class? I probably will at some point, but I'm curious how I might be able to do so without it.

2. Is djing for the radio station and playing 'Nightly Noise Hour' in the early morning a good idea or a bad one?

>>46220825

partially. I am a small sized idiot and only some people hate me

How do I breakup with my girlfriend when I don't really have any reason besides I'm not that interested anymore.

Don't wanna say that cause I think it'll hurt her feelings or something I don't know I just need to get it out of the way.

How to I get a gf?

>>46221039
Are they bins like the pic? If so just keep your arms as close to your sides as you can, grab either side of the record at the top corner (gently!) and make a motion like you are filing something in a file cabinet. Record bins are often cramped so it's mostly a game being as compact as possible while browsing.

>>>adv
This doesn't belong here.

>>46221122
for what it's worth, I don't hate you.

>>46221122

look at my cool repeating digits

>>46221163

thanks /mu/ advice. If you lived near me I would give you a hug

>>46221137
Thanks

>>46221201

pic not attached ;-;

>>46220444
I'm pretty sure more than half this board listens to AJJ and Snowing. Isn't it pretty much a requirement of this board that we all listen to the same overhyped shit without expressing any sign of individualism?

>>46221081
This was a huge issue for me coming to college. I came into college in 2011 and only in the past year and a half or so have I met music related friends. I'm gonna give similar advice to the guy above, you'd be surprised how far a band shirt can go, one music related friend I met and is still a pretty good friend whose band I've seen a few times I met cause I was wearing a Topshelf records shirt or like some hardcore band or something. Other than that find the bands in the area, go to house shows, if you have a car offer to drive people, check flyer boards by the music department, or generally just chill in the cafeteria/student union wearing some band stuff and see what happens.

for your radio program: it all depends on how well you station is. mine was shit so nothing really came of the people I knew that tried to do it. But hey if your's is good and you can pimp that shit out on social media, and not give up on it even if you feel like no one is listening, you could definitely make some good friends that way

>>46221175
You're welcome former-troll turned pretty cool dude

>>46220082
OP thanks for offering advice

I'm at uni, I've met some awesome people and made some pretty cool friends. But most girls I meet have bf's already. What do.

>>46221131
Fucking cliche buy honesty is the best policy. feelings are fucking complicated and stupid but you are 100% within your right to want to breakup because the spark isn't there anymore. it sucks and they may hate you, but honestly it's just as shitty to string someone along than it is to be a bit brutally honest with them. They may hate you and they are totally allowed to do that, as much as that notion may suck.Just explain to her that you're not feeling what you once felt, it's totally possible she feels the same way and the whole thing could be amicable. If you're feeling a loss of spark and connection it's possible that it isn't one sided

>>46221081
you'd be a fucking G for playing Merzbow on the radio

>>46221135
put yourself out there. It's really fucking hard but it's the only way to do it. Frequent places that you like (Shows, record stores, comic book shops, etc.) eventually you will come across someone you're interested in/ has some common interests. don't come off as in desperate need of a gf, people can smell that shit from a mile away. Also make your intentions clear from the start, if you don't want to be friends then don't be. but always keep the option for friendship open, everyone could use another friend. I'm a person who believes that all shit comes in good time; just wait, be casual, flirt but don't be creepy, and understand that women are sovereign beings that don't owe you companionship just cause you like some similar stuff.

as an aside: don't necessarily go for someone just cause they like all the same stuff you do, find someone who you get along with in terms of personality type, the other stuff will come along eventually

>>46221403
thanks you, I'm glad to help.
I've had the same gf since before uni, but most of my friends are women (or gay/trans, but that's another thing). Take advantage of college activites (Parties, clubs, etc.) There's this notion that all men are looking for women and that women don't do the same; they totally do. women talk about being unable to find a bf way more than most guys think. It's all a matter of putting yourself into potentially difficult situations (Parties are kinda tough for me for example) and seeing what comes out of them. it's not the worst thing if you come out with a female friend, and hey if you learn something about yourself and the people around you that's not the worst thing :)

Serious thanks to everyone who's asking for advice: this is going much better than I thought it would.

Question: If I made a Tumblr or something that people could ask questions earlier would anyone be into that? I know tumblr can be kinda shitty but it seems like a good place to ask questions anon. respond to this post if interested

>>46221492
fucking right? I'd shit myself if I heard harsh noise or like Sunn 0))) on the radio at college

>>46220082
Fuck off. Not music related
>>>/r9k/

>>46221901
is too, I'm helping people with /mu/ related problems. Why are you so angry about it?

>>46221835
lol, i know man, the best stuff my college radio has played has just been shit like NMH and Chance the Rapper

>>46222060
Mine's either shitty jersey-shore fist pumping party stuff stuff. or like the Lumineers and Lana del Ray

Let's keep um coming everyone, I'm on a roll here

How do we stop off-topic threads on /mu/?

>>46222124
damn, colleges need to be hiring harsh noise artists to be DJs, it'll become the new brostep

>>46222174
I feel like I could totally get bros into like clipping. and then ease them into Merzbow

>>46222170
There's plenty of music talk here, why is it bothering people so much?

>>46222228
lol, i don't really know if it would be that easy, but who knows man, Merzbow could be the Beatles of the 2020s

This thread is lucky no one got sextuplets.

I got to talk to my friend you listens to Britney Spears about noise music. It was pretty cool.

Yeah that's it.

>>46222567
Nightly Noise Hour guy here, I can only dream that this will one day happen. Glad there are some people here who appreciate it, maybe I'll meet some noisebros at UCSC

>>46222567
>>46222621
>>46222667
I really want to get people into noise music now, I think i'm gonna put it on the next party playlist I make

can someone link me to a Snowing song? I would like to check them out

>>46222667
yeah, i mean Noise aint my favorite, i've been trying to understand it more, but i absolutely love Harsh Noise fused with other genre's
stuff like early Animal Collective, noisy Boris, Velvet Underground, it's all good man
i try to give every type of music an unlimited amount of chances, i like to be open to anything

>>46222798
Snowing are one of the first bands /mu/ introduced me to. I think they're great.

>>/mu/?task=search&ghost=yes&search_text=snowing+fuck+your+emotional+bullshit+mega

>>46222798
it must be in the archive somewhere

>>46222791
<3
http://youtube.com/watch?v=cLdU-0wmW1M

>>46222992
See that's what I'm talking about, people could totally get into this at a party

>>46222791
hey please download and listen to this
>>46214903
for me thanks.

just so everyone knows, I made an ask page so people can ask me stuff in a place where the thread wont die:
http://muadvice.tumblr.com/ask

i was at the drive thru and the cashier was hitting on me. she asked me how my day was and i told her it was good. then i tipped her 3 bucks and she told me to enjoy my meal and i said "thanks you too" is there anyway to recover from this?

>>46223131
Go back there then ask her out. If you're sure she's hitting on you, then she'll say yes. If you're nervous, practice what you're gonna say.

>>46223171
how is this
they will say something like "hello welcome to chick fil a how may i help you"
then i say "yes i would like a number 1 without pickels and your number to go please"

>>46220082
I just moved to a new city and left my family and friends
My gf left me right before I left
I have a few work friends but all the girls I work with are icy
What do I do

>>46223131
That's awkward to be sure, but you can recover. just go back, develop a report with her and see what happens. you may be vulnerable, but she's vulnerable too, you see her in her shitty fast food uniform everyday and you're still into her. so just put yourself out there

>>46223285
should i tip her more next time?

>>46223236
that's pretty corny

that would be pretty weird.

you should try it.

>>46223245
warm their hearts up with a cool island song

>>46223068
Listening now, I'm into it

>>46223307
The money is cute, but it could send the wrong message, it might make her feel like a commodity maybe try writing something cute on the dollar. or be direct and flirt with her

crazyaga, is that you?

>>46223501
what if i get her like some flowers and show up with them and say they are for her with a note and my number in it

>>46223580
>>46223307
>>46223236
>>46223131
This nigga cant be fuckin srs...

>>46223580
that's a bit forward unless you like 95% sure she's into you. If you're all-but-certain she's into you then that's a pretty solid move, if you're on the fence and it turns out she doesn't reciprocate that could come off as way too forward. I'd wait on that and maybe gauge how you two interact with each other over the next few visits

I've been in love with this girl for as long as I can remember. Right now we're friends but I really do care for her and she cares for me. We don't see each other that often but I think about her a lot. Honestly my chances with her are 0% so I feel like my best choice is to try to forget her but I don't know how.

>>46223773
Not having to see her everyday is a huge plus, it makes it easier to forget those unwanted feelings that you have for her. Keep yourself busy and in time you'll forget about the feelings that you have for her

>>46221081
Oh goodness. I go to UCSC but will be studying abroad for the year that you're here. Then I'm out, bitches. But for what it is worth, I have some advice for you, if you're still around to read it.

1. You meet people by socializing with them. If you're into the /mu/ lifestyle, I think that Kresge or Porter would be your colleges. I went to Porter, which is a dense living area. Basically the live-in Hyatt of campus dorms. Anyway, the people of Porter tend to be art/music/social science majors. Kresge is much the same, but with a more apartment oriented lifestyle.

2. Yeah, that's a good idea. I live with four KZSC DJs.

How do I introduce myself and get to know a really shy QT in one of my classes at uni without scaring her off or spilling spaghetti all over the place?

>>46223999
Do you know what she's into? Maybe you two have stuff in common. If it's a class that isn't general education you could have a common interest there. You could try to sit next to her and strike up a basic conversation to start and take it from there

I can't get over all the stupid shit I did in high school (in second year of college) I feel physically uncomfortable when I think about the spaghetti and I don't know how ot get past it

How do I balance the strategies of asking out a girl I'm mildly interested in versus waiting for someone I'm strongly attracted to to eventually come along?

>>46224130
This is a daily occurrence for me, i totally get you on this one. Those those are fucking invasive. I just try to work to be the person that I am most satisfied/ fulfilled with. This doesn't always work and I still tend to over analyze a lot of the shit I do, but knowing I'm not as bad as I was in high school show that I'm progressing and hopefully you are too

>>46224130

Unfortunately, you will always feel embarrassed about past shit you did (I had my fair share of spaghetti in high school).

The good news is that at college, NO ONE knows who you were or what you did in high school, and you are never obligated to bring it up. Learn from your mistakes, don't let them define you.

How do you keep the conversation flowing with a grill? How do you manage to keep her interested. The only times I become interesting(and confident) enough to talk to girls is when I'm drunk.

>>46224140
This would be the time for a good ol pros and cons list. What do you like/ dislike about both ladies? Are you only using the other lady as a placeholder until the girl you really like comes along? Don't so that, i'm sure she doesn't deserve that. If you really really like the one lady then wait it out. If you could see a future with the mild lady, then maybe pursue that avenue. Or ask them if they're collectively into polyamory, because you just never know

>>46222992
Noise and party on the same sentence, I KNEW it was Discopathology.

>>46224248

I'm not actually dealing with two women right now, I'm talking about the general strategies of pursuing girls, mainly asking out girls who I'm mildly attracted to just to see if anything happens (can't hurt), or wait for someone I'm immediately attracted to to come along, then fully pursue.

>>46224215
This is a struggle for most people. Have fun facts, have some good party stories at the ready. Ask her questions and use those as a jumping off point. If you are genuinely interested in someone and just getting to know them there are an near infinite number of questions you could ask them, theres hours of conversations to be had in getting to know someone

>>46224186
thanks anon yeah I've made a lot of progress and I'm actually pretty happy with where I'm at its just at times I almost can't take myself seriously knowing some of the things I said and did.

>46224212
yeah its great having a fresh start but I'm still haunted by some of the shit and like I said its kind of impairing my self respect and identity

>>46221131
>tfw my girlfriend just broke up with me telling me exactly that
Was probably the best thing to say to be honest though

>>46224283
Ahh i see. Well i would advise towards mild interest over head over heals. Theres much less pressure when you are just mildly interested. Theres a lot at stake if you let yourself fall for someone who may not reciprocate

>>46224306
Being in uni away from everyone who knew you then is also a huge plus. You're now allowed to be the person you want to be instead of whatever role you were stuck playing as a hormonal teen in high school

Its been over three months since I ignored my ex's last text and deleted all her contact details.

She's moved half way across the country and obviously feels guilty that she left me high and dry out of nowhere so she's trying to comfort me or something.

Thing is I still miss her and want her to text me just so I know she's thinking about me. I have nightmares about her often.

Also please don't say 'go out and meet new girls' that's been tried and tested and my situation doesn't allow it. Please.

>>46224307
It's honestly much better than being strung along when you both know it's not right, or being fed an impersonal cliché like "it's not you it's me"

>>46224365
true I just have a tough time detaching from the faggot that I was

>>46224370
what situation are you in that you can't meet girls? Shaker village? Please. It's a good thing she isn't stringing you on anymore so you can get over that shit and move on.

>>46224394
Totally agree. Nothing I did, it just didn't work out, which is alright. Just stung hard and was unexpected, it's been a rough weekend.

>>46224307
It's honestly much better than being strung along when you both know it's not right, or being fed an impersonal cliché like "it's not you it's me"

Do you have a last.fm OP?

>>46224307
I'm sorry anon, how recently?

>>46224495
Saturday. She was fantastic, and it was abrupt, so that stung. But... life goes on you know, not going to just sit here feeling forever.

>>46224370
If you're not ready to meet someone new then don't. Give yourself time to heal, experience your feelings, they probably fucking suck but it's how you understand yourself better, it's a natural process unfortunately. Eventually you wont feel that way about her as much and you'll be able to move on

>>46224409
The farther removed you are from it the more distant a memory it will become

>>46224495
I don't, should i get one? Gonna be honest i'm not really sure what they are

How do you know when a qt likes you? I'm not naive enough to think that a girl trying to be friendly is into me.

>>46224616
Last.fm is a website with multiple functions. 1 is a social function, I don't really use that... you can have friends and chat on there like writing on someone's facebook wall. There's a radio feature which gives you suggestions and plays songs like pandora but with a much larger library. There's the stats feature, it "scrobbles" what you play and you can analyze what you listen to. It's interesting, I like to look at it every once in a while, or occasionally use the recc feature. Good for looking up artists and see how popular they are as well.

>>46224638
There is no true way. You just have to make a leap of faith when you think you have a chance :)

>>46224638
Theres a kind of lingering connection i've noticed when people are into another person. They want to hang around, they may goodbye hug for a bit too long, they sit closer than friends often do. Little harmless attempts to be near a person tends to be a sign that someone is into you

>>46224616
Yeah you should man, it basically is just a site that publishes what you listen to and automatically makes charts based on your most published artists (you need a plugin for foobar or iTunes or whatever music program you use, or their autoscrobbler (which is pretty shit).

The main attraction is that you can have friends who can message you or post comments on your profile whenever. You can also make groups, I ran Nothing But Dream Pop December last year through it and recently made the /mu/ noise group (and hopefully Nightly Noise Hour soon too).

Add me if you make one OP, or anyone else ITT, you're all great people. I'm going to follow the mu advice tumblr if nothing else.
http://www.last.fm/user/VirtualEntities

>>46224689
Seems interesting, ill have to check it oyur

>>46223773
holy fuck iktf, I think I've recovered, but I still check up on her profile every once in awhile. we go to different universities

>>46224708
Got your name saved in my phone for when I make one

>>46224689
>You just have to make a leap of faith when you think you have a chance :)
Scary shit. I'm no good at taking initiative. The only gf I ever had practically had to throw herself on me for me to get it. I'm hoping that happens again. God I'm a pussy.

>>46224691
Hmm hmm. Good shit. That might be what's happening, but I usually write it off to the situation or coincidence. But, I mean, if a person goes out of their way just to spend a little time with you is a pretty good sign, right? Again, though, it could just be bored people being friendly.

Fuck, I don't know how people work and it's frustrating.

>>46224772
Think of it as a practice exercise, you're going to need to ask out someone eventually, why don't you "practice" on this girl, and if it doesn't work out, you've got some practice under your belt, if it does, you've got a gf.
>only gf I ever had practically had to throw herself on me
>iktfb

>>46224772
Think if shit you do when you like someone and try to notice when other people do it. If you're sitting with a person you think likes you notice where they sit, try and see how the look at you. Bodily cues give off so much more than we ever give them credit for. If you have an idea of what to look for it can help you out

Oh fuck it why not.

I'm having a lot of trouble making friends in college. In high school I was really popular and had a lot of friends, but then for some reason I go to college and I just got scared. I'm starting to get more confidence now but I just don't know where to start. I can't just talk to people randomly, but I don't know how else to interact with people. I'm stuck because I just don't know where to start. That and I'm scared.

>tfw 21 year old virgin
>tfw probably afraid of sex
>tfw won't have sex until my first long-term gf

>>46224814
Won't work in this situation cause we work together. If it doesn't go through, shit is going to be so unbearably awkward.

>>46224816
I thought about this. I figure that if a person likes you, they would show signs, but every time she gets near me I get all self-conscious and start sweating. If a girl did that shit it would be cute as fuck, but in my case I can only assume it's disgusting. Like I'm the smoothest motherfucker until I notice her. Shit is embarrassing. Will keep note of how she behaves next time though.

>>46224858
Clubs and study sessions and shit. Hang out where other students hang out. I was in a similar position until I started hanging out in the student lounge and a cool guy from one of my classes would always invite me to do shit.

>>46224898
>tfw constantly worried my barely-average/borderline-below-average dick won't do shit

>>46224858
Most of my friends I met through my major, so if you haven't declared one yet that might be why. Other than that a bunch of my friends are music related. I'm not the kind of person that's good at putting myself out there either but if you meet someone that you find yourself driven to in a platonic way you have to pursue it like a romantic relationship, you have to put in the time and effort to get a decent friendship out of it. If you're a freshman I definitely suggest going to as many campus events as possible and really integrating yourself into the community

>>46224949
I think I'm actually in the clear on this one, but I still know that feel

>>46224898
Sex really isn't that big deal, I totally the fear that society has imbued it with. But honestly it's nothing to get worked up about. 21 is still quite young. I'm 21 in a week and i still know plenty of virgins, it's nothing to worry about, everyone progresses differently

>>46224922
If you think it's cute, she might too. That's what i'm saying.

>>46220297
At least you dated her for a while. Some don't even have that.

>>46224922
For the first week maybe, who cares! Get over the awkward, anon, life is much easier this way.

>>46224956
>so if you haven't declared one yet that might be why
Well my first year I was a music major, but I didn't like it so this year I switched majors. I'm a sophomore.
>If you're a freshman I definitely suggest going to as many campus events as possible and really integrating yourself into the community
I think that's what my biggest problem is. My freshman year I didn't integrate into the community because I was afraid it was going to interfere with my academics. Now it seems as though everyone has made friends and I'm on the outside looking in.
>>46224922
I don't even know where all the students hangout. I'm very detached from the community. I honestly didn't even make any attempts to get friends until this semester.

>>46225050
Student unions or wherever people eat are a good place to start. Try camping out there with a book or your laptop or something else you're passionate about (again, wear a band shirt) and see if anyone comes up to you. Or go up to someone whos style, book, band merch, etc you like

>>46225011
I hope so, but I can't see that shit happening. I'mma let it ride out for now. Fucking self-esteem problems.

Also, to take it in a weirder territory what do you know about incest? I'm talking light shit like cousins you don't see often.

>>46225043
Hell no, man. Not only would the awkwardness make work even shittier, but I would feel awful well beyond a week if I was constantly reminded of my rejection for a good 30 hours of my week. If I'm taking the leap, it's only when I'm about to quit.

>>46225050
>I don't even know where all the students hangout. I'm very detached from the community. I honestly didn't even make any attempts to get friends until this semester.
When your school has club rush, actually check out the clubs. There's also usually student centers where you can hang out and play games and stuff. Talk to people in your class--that's probably the easiest way.

This shit is so hard. I can't tell you how many times I've wondered how friends happen. Somehow they just kind of happen.

>tfw can't have an interesting conversation with a girl to save my own life
>tfw I've lost sight of being an interesting person in general
>tfw I don't have the singlest clue about being interesting whatsoever

halp

I'm gonna try to answer a few more questions but it's almost 3am here on the east coast and i have class at 11. If the thread is still around when I wake up Ill answer more questions, if not I can make a new thread or you can go through the tumblr I made (muadvice.tumblr.com/ask) this has seriously been one of the best threads i've ever made, thanks to all of you

>>46221611
this is bullshit
apart from the last line, that's true

get drunk/coked up, act like a dickhead (and by that i don't mean be a cunt, i mean be carefree/flirty/funny, all the things you're not), be persistent but not pushy, get their attention and then act like yourself when you sober up (as in a nice guy, because most /mu/tants are) and show your "sensitive" side (which is actually just your normal side)
women seem to want fun dickheads who are actually nice
so while the dickheads out there have to try and pretend to be nice as well, all you have to do as a nice guy is act like a dickhead for a bit
it helps to be good looking as well but eh

if you're shy/socially-handicapped/autistic as fuck then meeting women while sober is gonna be pretty hard as you probably already know

oh and don't bother going for girls you already have feelings for
go for women you don't care about because it makes rejection easier and you'll eventually fall for them anyway
that way you won't be worrying about saying the wrong things or coming across as weird because you can easily find more women to embarrass yourself in front of

as for advice on how to get women that you already know and love, i have no fucking clue

and when it comes to keeping women, just inject a bit of the dickhead back into the equation when they start getting bored of the nice guy, which they will do unless they have kids or are over thirty
once it's long-term though then it entirely depends on whatever relationship you've constructed, no two relationships are the same

>>46225167
>this has seriously been one of the best threads i've ever made, thanks to all of you
What, because giving advice to kids on the internet has boosted your ego?

>>46225165
What do you find interesting in people? Try and emulate the qualities that you find interesting. Being able to talk passionately about what you give a shit about is one of the easiest ways to sound interesting. If you're super into russian literature from the 1700's, but you can talk about it with drive and passion than you can captivate a room

>>46220838
>>46220955

"How to Turn People off Musically" by me, Anonymous

"I loooove band [x], [y], and early releases by [z]."

"Ohhh, band [a]? Yeah I have heard them. They suck. They're not a good band."

>>46225165
You obviously like music. There ya go. Now why don't you come up with 1 or two more things you are interested in, could be playing an instrument if you know how, or singing, or exercise. You don't have to be terribly interesting you just have to be normal and not boring, and be up for new experiences.

>>46225110
>Or go up to someone whos style, book, band merch, etc you like
Oh god I can already imagine the conversation.
>"H-hey, n-nice shirt"
>"Oh um... thanks"
>"..."
>"..."
>"well, see ya"
>"Y-yeah, you too...."
You have no idea how bad I am at conversing with people I don't know. Plus they probably already have friends, why would they want to talk to me?
>>46225157
>When your school has club rush, actually check out the clubs
This semester I signed up for 5 clubs. All of them were canceled during the first week.
>There's also usually student centers where you can hang out and play games and stuff
Haha what. I got to a tiny university man. There is nothing to do here.
>Talk to people in your class--that's probably the easiest way.
There's this one girl I want to be friends (as in no romantic involvement) with but I keep chickening out on approaching her for lunch.
>This shit is so hard. I can't tell you how many times I've wondered how friends happen. Somehow they just kind of happen.
Same here. I'm starting to wonder if I just stop trying I'll start making friends.

>>46224988
I feel like I just can't fuck when sober though, like I'd have to be drunk or in a relationship to do it

damn son you're a real cunt you know that?

>>46225224
Nice try but no, i just thought id help some people out cause i like helping people

>>46225261
>>46225261
Rehearse. Plan what youll say to people if you're nervous about awkward silences. Say it in your head enough that when you say it out loud it's just one of the 1000 times you've said it to yourself. If you're worried about looking weird them try as hard as you can to control the situation

>>46225269
>>46224988

not to mention, I'm really into my friend who is 24. She's tsundere as fuck around me and also a little patronizing because of my age, so that just feels a little shitty. I told her how I felt a few months ago but she was holding out for somebody else who rejected her for a third time. I explained it as a big misunderstanding and backed down, but we still talk very regularly.

>>46225261
>This semester I signed up for 5 clubs. All of them were canceled during the first week.
What, that's wack. Wait for next time then, I guess. Get "involved" somehow with the school and you'll meet people. Do shit you like doing and you'll meet people who like the same shit.

>Haha what. I got to a tiny university man. There is nothing to do here.
What. Even my tiny community college has a little lounge and a coffee cart outside where people hang out between classes. There has to be some spot like that.

>There's this one girl I want to be friends (as in no romantic involvement) with but I keep chickening out on approaching her for lunch.
If you're not romantically involved, what is there to lose? Don't shoot for lunch so soon, though. Just shoot the shit a little and make jokes. Most importantly, ask about her (people love talking about themselves), but also listen. Then use the information she gives you later. Find excuses to hang out (studying or whatever).

>Same here. I'm starting to wonder if I just stop trying I'll start making friends.
It's a catch-22. You make friends by being introduced to new people by your friends. It's getting the first few that's hard, but it's doable if you just step up and talk a little. It helps if they're cool and accommodating.

>>46220297
That's such a killer. My feels are with you man. Listen to Bright Eyes.
https://www.youtube.com/watch?v=iSMHcT-TqJw
https://www.youtube.com/watch?v=tn46p_mPe8U

>>46224898
There is nothing wrong with prostitutes. Well, apart from the venereals. Also think of all the people in the world that don't have sex until they're married.
>>46224988 is actually write on this one, western culture has made sex such a casual cool thing and that missing out on it is a tragedy or whatever, so obviously there's lots of pressure there, but hey that's what 4chan is for, combating the pressure to have sexual intercourse with other humans.


>>46224949
Women often like the intimacy of sex rather than just the pure pleasure of it. Obviously that isn't the case for a lot of women, but its for nicer girls. Do what you can and work on it from there, life isn't all about one-night stands and impressing women with your megacock.
Also that thought has been thought by every man ever

>>46225355
Sex for most people is an extension of intimacy, so you may be one of those people that need a relationship to have sex. That's not really that weird. As for the lady in your life, that's sort of a sticky situation. She sort of knows how you feel, the best you can do is try to be more assertive with your feelings for her a d try to call her out for being patronizing.

>tfw no record stores or shows

>tfw asked a friend to go to the Jabberwocky fest
>said he will
>text him to plan the trip
>he tells me he's going on holiday with other friends instead

Why are some people just fucking faggots ? Everytime I ask someone to do something with me, then refuse or end up canceling, especially him

Well, should I go alone ?

>>46225301
Why do you like helping people though?
Maybe not for the recognition since it's anonymous (although you still want to expand your name and influence with the little tumblr account you have) but because it makes YOU feel better.
You're not even getting to see the end result, you just feel the need to validate yourself.
Not sure why I'm attacking you actually, but you are terrible.

>>46225434
hm, maybe true. It's a complicated situation, but I'll just let it play out.

>>46225354
Ugh, I don't know, the entire thing scares the shit out of me.
>>46225364
>Even my tiny community college has a little lounge and a coffee cart outside where people hang out between classes
Well I guess people hangout there, but how will I know if anyone interesting hangs out there? I guess I'm just afraid of meeting someone I think is interesting, and then it turns out we have nothing in common.
>If you're not romantically involved, what is there to lose?
I don't even know. I think that's a recurring theme here. I'm just scared and I don't know why.

>>46225450
fuck it dude, go alone.

>>46225450
I am going to jabberwocky with some cool people. Link me your last.fm bitch, not gonna add you but just to get to know your musical taste. There's gonna be loads of /mu/tants there anyway so go anyway

>>46225496
I don't have a lastfm.
It's just that I've never been to London.

>>46225454
I suppose in some level that's why all people help other people isn't it? You're probably right, i'm not really gonna argue with you. The tumblr is a convenience thing not a fame thing, otherwise id just use my personal tumblr. It honestly doesn't make me feel all that great emotionally, i know i'm just as fucked up as anyone else. i'm not doing it from a place of superiority i just think people should want to help other people. You cant hate me if that makes you feel better, but it seems like a waste of time frankly.

>>46225463
That's always a wise decision for stuff like this

>>46225481
>Well I guess people hangout there, but how will I know if anyone interesting hangs out there?
Idk. show up occasionally and do homework or read or something and if people talk about some interesting shit you can try to join in (though that's kind of weird). Maybe you'll run into a classmate and you can get some coffee and talk shit. The point is that to make friends you need to go to places to meet people. Even if you don't have that much in common, it's nice having company and most people like small talk.

>I don't even know. I think that's a recurring theme here. I'm just scared and I don't know why.
iktf. But you gotta step up and just talk. It doesn't have to be anything substantial, just a "hey, what's up" and maybe some shit about the class. Letting her know you exist is a good start.

>>46225454
who caressssss helping people is a good thing to do regardless of the motivation.

>>46225481
I understand, but it's worth a shot isn't it?

>>46225513
Where you from? And London ain't that bad, the excel centre is in the docklands so be fine

>>46225553
>The point is that to make friends you need to go to places to meet people
Yeah, but if you don't get the first one right then all the other people you will meet will be wrong and then you'll be all sorts of fucked up. I don't know, I'm just obsessed with finding the right kind of friend instead of just anyone at all.

And we've talked before, a few time in class and had some conversations. Just nothing outside of class. That's what I figure would be the next step.
>>46225558
Maybe. I just don't really know if anyone at my college is going to like the music I like.

>>46225609
Colleges have a lot of people, i'm sure at least one of them has an interest in at least one band you like.

>>46225554
The best way is to let people learn for themselves.

>>46225526
>I suppose in some level that's why all people help other people isn't it?
No, sometimes it's because you genuinely care about the person your helping and their happiness matters more to you than your own.
Anyway, you've displayed enough humility for me to believe that you are a decent person so I apologise. Whether you have decent taste in music though is a different yet wholly more important question.

>>46225567
France

>>46225629
>band
I don't really go by bands. I'm a big classical fag, and my other big genres are world music and dark ambient. It's sort of fringe stuff that not a lot of people are into.

>>46225634
What do you look like? I want to be able to recognise you so I can cut you for daring to step foot in my beloved blighty.
Nah but seriously, you'll be fine. Newham is a pretty boring part of London so you might want to visit Camden and some other cool places while you're here

>>46225632
I understand a healthy degree of skepticism, so your apology is wholly accepted. I really don't have an ulterior motive other than the want to help people, i know i don't know these people personally but that doesn't mean i don't care.

I think i posted it earlier but i listen to a lot of revival emo, 90's screamo/emo, folk punk, crust punk, some drone type stuff and 80's new wave/post punk

>>46225655
Then you could get people into it, and i bet the music school has plenty of classical fans

>>46225674
I look like Ryan Gosling and have a beard.
Joke, I only have a beard.

>>46225655
>I'm a big classical fag, and my other big genres are world music and dark ambient
You might as well give up on finding someone with similar taste in music. Also if you do, don't instantly latch onto them because of that one fact
Make conversation about TV shows and other more mundane shit and get drunk with them.
Only children become friends because they both like something similar, I went through two years of college and essentially 4 years of university and only made one friend who was also into music in the same way I am. With everyone else, I bonded over alcohol

I really have to go to bed now, it's been real everyone :)

>>46225708
You're gonna stand out quite a bit at jabberwocky then!
Joke, you're gonna blend in with every other bearded european there.
Time for some advice back, should I shave my head for jabberwocky?

>>46225698
Well they're all music majors and the music majors really only hangout with each other.
>>46225722
>bonding over alcohol
I don't really like being drunk, so no thanks.
>>46225725
Alright, seeya. Have a good sleep.

>>46225753
yes, so I can hit on the head every shaved men until I find you.

>>46225756
>I don't really like being drunk, so no thanks.
Oh


Oh


Oh

>>46225767
That is horrible. Typical french, always turning to violence. Or "tactical retreating"

>>46225756

>I don't really like being drunk, so no thanks.

confirmed for never having been drunk. Getting buzzed on a little beer really isn't so bad.

>no girls want to fuck me and i will be a virgin forever
heres the ultimate secret to getting laid: don't be a fatty
you don't even have to be "good looking" which is a myth. if you hit on girls heavier than yourself you will never fail
chubby girls never say no, just body shame and fuck them regularly and they will lose weight and become ok looking
then hot girls will try to fuck you because you have a girlfriend
you just gotta stop being a pussy & make the first move anon

>moyes

>>46225971
>>>/sp/

>>46225954
>tfw have a fat friend
>he's a ladykiller
>tfw I'm fat
>and virgin

fuck this lyfe mang.

>>46224949
size of dick isn't actually that important if you know what to do with it (and your hands and mouth)

>>46226029
go to the gym every morning before you eat for 2 hours.
if you truly hate yourself you will lose the weight
just get up and go outside you lazy fuck. go outside today even if it kills you

>>46226197
anything less than 4 inches is social suicide, you don't think girls talk about our dicks to their friends? if its less than 4 inches you'll be happier staying a virgin

>>46226223
bullshit

source: am a grrl

>tfw qt girl started working here a month ago
>tfw feelings of inadequacy are popping up again

>>46226254
i'm sure if you had friends you would tell them all about my tiny cock.
you just don't like the fact I* am painting girls in a negatively, you're probably a feminist and make horribly contrived music.

FUCK

OFF

TO

FUCKING

>>>/r9k/

THIS

ISN'T

THE

TEENAGE

LOSERS

ADVICE

BOARD

>record store day
>looking through Yes albums
>2 copies of Fragile left
>a hand grabs the same one my hand is one
>hand belongs to gorgeous grill
>talk about Yes for a little while
>says she's gonna go to a Starbucks a few blocks away, when i'm done shopping I should meet her there at 3.
>meet her there at 3
>miraculously I don't spaghetti

Shame she lived in Chicago and I had to drive 2 hours to go there.

>>46226306
eloquently put

>tfw 25 and never had a gf

HELP /mu/

This is making me feel awful about myself.

>>46222992
>>46223048
>>46224276
wow that shit is horrible.
just using industrial sounds with really cheesy house beat/melody doesn't make it noise.

not really partyish, but imo preferable:
https://www.youtube.com/watch?v=TkKBCLvqI8U

>>46220444
omg you liek neutral milk hotel and radiohead too????

How do I meet people with similar tastes/make friends at concerts?

Do I need a working mobile phone?

>>46228421
I didn't have one until I was 23. It's never too late anon.
>>46228503
I don't see why you'd need it. Just talk to people. That or do some funky ass dance moves and see who likes it.

>>46228534
>I didn't have one until I was 23. It's never too late anon.

What do I do if she asks about previous relationships?

>>46228548
You're just honest about it. If that's a dealbreaker for her then she probably wasn't worth it. She might admire your sincerity, as well.