She complains about not being invited to meet ups yet rarely hosts anything herself? The last event in that group is from a year ago, and I don't believe any meet ups have been hosted by her in years either.
NYC is super cliquey, and you do kinda have to work hard to find or create your own, but it is possible just by hosting your own meets often, and meeting new people, and of course actually being nice in person.
I'm glad the main comm actually has a bunch of public events finally. It's refreshing to see people actually trying to branch out instead of staying in their little groups.
Also im not exactly sure what this girl did except stirring up drama in the LJ days. Her name was simply26.